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Sharing my personal struggle with feeling too old to have what I want, and the women that remind me I’m not.
If you’ve ever felt this way, you might find this helpful. I’m also sharing what I’m doing to “get over myself” and move past my limiting beliefs.
Never Feeling Good Enough Starts Early
When I was around 14, I wanted to be a singer. My best friend and I would write songs, lip-sync to our favorite artist (mine was Madonna, hers was Led Zeppelin). Even though we had VERY different taste in music, we knew that one day, we’d be famous singers together. But at that moment, we were too young. Or so we thought.
By the time I was 15, my rock star dreams had started to move toward modeling, assuming I could put my awkward height to some use. Only this time, instead of being too young, I was too fat and I didn’t know how to lose the weight, so my dreams of professional modeling never happened either.
By the time I was able to lose the weight (around age 22), I was now entering the “too old” category for any great success, so I never really gave that dream a decent try.
Blogging About Fitness Over 40
Fast forward many (many) years later and I’m now a fitness coach and blogger, helping other women my age look and feel their absolute best. But you know what never leaves me? The idea that I’m way too old to be blogging, particularly about fitness. So when I heard a successful blogger make a comment on a podcast about no one caring to see a 49-year-old blogger, I cringed. This is not a person whose opinion matters to me, but all the same, her words kicked me right in my tender insecurity.
It occurred to me just this morning is that this has become a significant trend in my life. I box myself into a limiting belief that no matter what I want, I’m not the right age for it. Honestly, I think I do this as a way for me to give myself a gracious excuse to fail… or not try at all.
Does this resonate with you at all?
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What I do when I feel “too old”.
Fortunately, with age comes self-awareness and the ability to catch myself when I start believing the nonsense that my head loves to indulge in. When I hear that little voice whispering “you’re too old”, I try to snap myself back into the present moment and remind myself that while I may be too old for that blogger, there’s a litany of other women out there that need more healthy role models, demonstrating what’s possible women in their 40’s and 50’s.
Related Post: My weight loss stories – both of them.
Getting Past Limiting Beliefs About Age
I focus on being the best version of myself, right now.
I don’t consider myself to be exceptionally good at any sport, I’m rarely ever dressed as an adult (because, #yogapants) and my physique is nowhere near perfect, but I do my best to show up as my best self. I try to constantly push the envelope and raise the bar for what’s possible for myself as, irrespective of age.
I’m not a fan of stereotypes, labels or limitations, so when I catch myself indulging in “too old-isms” I seek out examples of women (or men) who defy stereotypes – like bombshell beauties who are equally as smart or petite gals with muscular strength.
I look for role models that inspire me.
I intentionally seek to model myself after real women who run businesses or hold down demanding jobs while still juggling kids, workouts and a social life. What inspires me is watching women in their 70’s, 80’s and 90’s rocking their best selves in marathon races, on a balance beam or on a yoga mat.
These are just a few of the women I enjoy following on Instagram for fitness inspiration. I hope they inspire you, too.
And me (age 48)
Happy following! I hope this inspires you as much as it does me. If you want more inspiration from women over 40, 50 and beyond who are killing it with their healthy lives, check out my Pinterest board and sign up for my weekly wellness emails.